I’m a 30-year-old woman and I know that life and relationships are not like they depict in movies and tv shows. But I’m currently watching ‘How I Met Your Mother’, up to the last 5 episodes of the whole series and it has really made me feel shitty about my relationship.

I didn’t have that instant feeling of love with my partner. Sure I felt very comfortable and knew we would be friends but I didn’t have that life changing moment during our first conversation that we were meant to be together. We actually became friends after 5-6 dates and didn’t start dating again until 10 months later. We made it ‘official’ 2 weeks after that. But there was no feeling of destiny.

We don’t have much in common at all. He doesn’t watch movies, he doesn’t read books, he doesn’t paddle board with me, he’s not really interested in any of my hobbies except gardening, and even then our taste in plants is different.

We don’t have the same sense of humour. Sure we are laughing a lot more together now that we’ve been together for a while, but we just don’t enjoy things on the same level as each other.

I absolutely love my man and can’t imagine my life without him. We don’t fight, he is loving and respectful, we are so loyal to each other, we do enjoy spending time together even though we don’t actually do much together, he is the man I want to spend my life with and have children with. But after watching HIMYM and having the constant themes of destiny, being ‘perfect’ for each other and always doing fun things together flow through the whole series, it makes me feel like our relationship is inadequate compared to other relationships.

I feel so stupid for even thinking this.