So I broke up with my abusive ex a month or so ago..but the thing is i still love my first love. Don’t get me wrong, I loved this guy too but I realized he never loved me and it was more of an obsession.

I always thought of my first bf, we ended on good terms. I continued talking to him as friends after some time had passed. That’s when I met my current ex and later on started dating him. I still had contact with my first love, there was no way for me to see him since he lives in another continent due to him being in the army. We would strictly just text.

That kept going for about a year. I had to cut contact for the sake of my current relationship. Things turned bad and I ended up leaving him.

The thing is I never once stopped caring for my first love, I would think about how he’s doing and wonder if he’s okay. Is this some sort of cheating? :/ or did i just never move on?

We never even flirted once after the break up because we both have respect for each other, and I was in a relationship. We just wanted to keep contact.

Opinions?