Okay so here we go. To start off I would like to inform you that I am allergic to all kinds of smoke. (Hives, swelling, itchy red skin, hard to breathe, etc.) I also have asthma. My husband has been smoking at work. He came and told me that this has been going on about 2 weeks ago, but that it had been happening for about 2 weeks so now a month or so. At first I was livid and of course all my trust for this topic is out the window. Let me add we had an agreement before we got married that he would only chew tabacoo not smoke. It wasn't even the smoking that made me so mad and deeply hurt but the fact that he hid it for 2 weeks. Then last week we figure out a way that he can still do it but in the form of Vaping if he so needs to do it. Now today he comes home and says oh btw I've had a few cigs a cigar and a few puffs off of a joint. WTF?! Another background note, he had a weed problem in high school and we agreed yet again he wouldnt have anything to do with the stuff unless we had talked about it before hand. I was just starting to trust him again. I just feel so betrayed and hurt that now it's more than just the topically trust. So what I'm looking for is answers. When I talk to him about it he just says "OMG! You blow this way out of proportion. I just shouldn't even tell you anymore." Anyway, am I making a big deal out of nothing? What should I do? I really want to trust him so how do I work that back up? Please I just need help. I can't talk to anyone else about this.