My husband is, by no means, an alcoholic!

But he does drink a lot! More than I’d like him to.

He never gets drunk, never becomes rude, mean, emotional, or belligerent.

But he becomes annoying, to me.

He drinks about 8-12 beers in the evening.

Always after work, never drinks and drives.

It’s something he enjoys, he makes good money and feels like he “deserves” to enjoy a few beers in the evening.

I have told him to cut back, but I just end up feeling guilty because I don’t want to seem like a controlling wife... so I stopped saying anything about it.

Lately, I will go to bed around midnight, after he’s had about 6-8 beers, and he’ll stay up until 3-4am and have a few more... not just on the weekends either.

He owns his own business, works from home and sets his own hours, so it’s not like he has to be up and out the door by a certain time...

If I say anything, he always comes back with, “does it hurt anyone? Am I still the same person you love? Does it change anything about how much we love each other?”

I want to say something to him, but I don’t want it to come off like I’m controlling or keeping him from doing something that makes him happy...

What should I say to him in the scenario?!

Or am I just being sensitive and should let him do what he wants?

Help!