I know I’m selfish but....

My best friend and I were both pregnant, I had a mmc at 10 weeks.... Its pretty tough... she texted me last week about helping out with her baby shower and Selfishly I don’t want to help. She asked me how did I make my husbands ballon arch for his 40th birthday (but she asked me in that... I’m asking you so you can do it for me sort of way) and I just sent her the youtube link of how to do it.. I know her and I know shes probably upset about the whole thing.... but I just can’t do it.

I can’t.

Plus she She has two sisters, two sister in laws, all 4 of our other friends AND this is her third kid.

Am I a terrible friend?