After our loss this summer I’ve been struggling off and on. I’ve missed 4 baby showers so far. I just can’t seem to bring myself to go. My sister in law is having a shower this weekend (she is about a month behind where I would be). We haven’t talked about the loss at all. I know I won’t be able to make the shower but I don’t know how to tell her. I’m afraid if I go over there I’ll just be a blubbery mess and won’t get my true feelings across. I’m so happy for them and will love the baby so much but it hurts my heart just as much. I also thought about writing her a note and leaving it with their gift but that seems so impersonal.

Any thoughts, ideas or words of wisdom are welcome and appreciated!