I’ve always considered myself independent, fearless and powerful... all to an extent, because there is one person, one guy, that can break me.

He is gentle, loving and kind. But he holds my heart in his hands and can easily crush it at any given time because I’m that fragile. My partner of 5 years, my hero and knight in shining amour. I am totally careless of anyone else, except with him. Our story is one you could write a book on. But there are times when I’m super in my zone and often don’t need him around and want to be alone. But other times, I’m so needy and desperate for attention and to feel “wanted”... so yes i could go both ways but generally speaking, in the deepest depth of all, I am, too attached to him to the point I don’t see a successful happy life without him.

So I need to know:

- How can I stop relying my happiness on him?

- How can I be my true independent and powerful self around him and not be vulnerable?

- How can I stop caring so much about what he does and thinks? E.g. watching porn, how pretty he thinks i am, if he really desires me or not

Feel free to ask for clarification if it will help in answering this. Or simply sharing your story would help too. Thank you