Sex and relationships

Ok so I have a problem. So me and my boyfriend are religious. We made promises to god that we would wait until marriage to have sex. We have done other types of sex but not intercourse. Well in the beginning of our relationship he was in another country for a year and so when we made our promises to wait until marriage it was easy because he wasn’t here. Now though our second year together we live together and I am having a hard time. It’s not only that we are waiting until marriage for intercourse but we are trying to not be sexual before marriage at all (HJ,BJ,oral,fingering). Well it started off that way and every time we would fail and get caught up in the moment we would pray and feel bad about it. Now that we live together and are not planning on getting married until 2-3 years from now when we are financially stable I am having a harder time. I have needs and I want my man to please those needs and yes I still want to wait for intercourse but I want the intimacy as well as the pleasure of sex with my man. So I wanted to comprise by doing everything but intercourse but my man feels bad. I wanted to compromise by just doing hand things but he says he will feel bad. Finally I was like ok well just please me and I won’t do anything to you so you don’t feel bad but he says that by pleasing me it’s still him doing something bad. And I love him very much but I’m thirsting for affection, intimacy and am horny as heck and I don’t know what to do!!! Someone please give me direction. I can’t see myself not cumming for 3 years while he walks around in all his naked chocolate glory. Lol