Mothers rights?

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I am about to have a baby any day now... me and the father are together, however we don’t live together. He lives with his parents, and me on my own. I plan for my home to be my daughters primary residence. For her first month or 2, I don’t really want to bring her around tons of people, or bring her back and forth from place to place. I welcomed all family and friends to come whenever to see her and spend some time. My boyfriend however, is saying he is going to take her 50% of the time to his parents, and that in the first few weeks will take her to
Them. I’m not comfortable with this and it’s an on going argument that he ignores me wishes. I’ve already expressed my concerns and that I want her to have a structure. He thinks he’s taking her x amount of days, and x amount of over nights right off the bat. On top of getting to spend time with her at my house every day? That’s just taking more bonding time away from me. Am I wrong for feeling this way? He is making me resent him for trying to just up and take her from me, when I’m in no way trying to keep anyone from her. It just doesn’t make sense why he HAS to be with her without me around. This is his first baby that he will have ant kind of experience with, where as I’ve helped raise my niece and 2 nephews from birth. Can anyone provide any insight on this?

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Where I live the dad doesn’t have any rights, he would have to take you to court and file for shared parenting and so on. Check with your states specific laws, just because he’s the dad doesn’t legally mean he has rights to shared parenting when she’s born

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For the first few months of a baby’s life they don’t even recognize that they are a separate person from mom (look up fourth trimester). That is definitely too soon to be spending half of her of time away from you.
If you are breastfeeding, that could help your argument as well, since you are baby’s food source and it’s best to exclusively breastfeed (and not pump or supplement if possible) in the first 6 weeks until your supply regulates.
If he thinks he needs alone time with her, then you would be entitled to the same thing. If she would be with him 50% of the time, he can’t expect you to share the other 50% with him too.

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Get a lawyer. He has just as many right as you. It’s best to do this as analytical as possible.  This App will just be a bunch of us women telling you he is an ass but that doesn’t mean anything legally. 
Legally he has rights. I EBF and the judge put us on a week on and week off schedule so I had no choice to pump. She was a Tiny baby then and the judge was pretty clear that my desire to keep her close and maternal instincts did NOT override his rights also and I had to learn to compromise. 
Things are better. She is 16.  We all made it out alive but without a real LEGAL advisor your settings yourself up for disappointment also. Good luck momma bear!

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If you took that to court ever the baby would be ordered to stay with you the whole first year!

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Girlllllll regardless it’s YOUR baby as unfortunate as that sounds. It’s both of your all’s but in reality it is yours. Do what you KNOW is right! Men don’t understand

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As the father he should have just as much rights as you but if you're planning on breastfeeding he cant really take her overnight. I can completely understand you wouldnt want to be away from her overnight.

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I guess I don’t understand if you guys are together, why aren’t you living together so this isn’t an issue at all? Also, if you are breast feeding, he can’t really take the baby alone at all because you will need to feed your baby. Since you aren’t married, he will need to take you to court to get any form of visitation but I think forcing this will just end your relationship and cause more issue. I think you guys need to sit down and talk about your concerns.

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