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They’ll come around! They’re 10&12, sounds like my older two who are also the same age.. a bit of gender disappointment.. my kids are having ANOTHER sister. They wanted a brother
Trying my hardest not to get upset
So I’m currently 37 weeks pregnant, it’s my first biological child. My husband has 2 sons from a previous marriage 12 and 10. I’ve been with my husband for 5 years now so I’ve been there for a big part of the boys lives and I love them like they’re my own. Their mom and her husband have a daughter together and their mom is also having another child in December. They’re such awesome big brothers to their younger sister and it’s heart warming how attached they are to her. But they seem really disappointed that I’m pregnant, I don’t know if it’s because the age they’re at, or because they had a baby free and thus stress free house when they come to stay with us and now that’s changing. I don’t know if it’s because I’m having a boy and their mom is too so they’re getting 2 brothers a month apart from each other... anyway they just seem super opposed to having a baby brother. We don’t get to see them that often because they live in a separate state and I’m really trying to not let it hurt my feelings. But I’m really worried they aren’t going to bond with their brother. It’s hard because they’re so sweet about their sister from their mom. Has anyone else experienced something like this? I need advice and I definitely don’t want them to know that it bothers me if they don’t like/bond with my biological son.... I just really want them to.
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There’s a good chance they won’t bond the same way they have with their baby sister if they aren’t in your home full time. From my experience with step and half siblings that aren’t full time it ends up being more like a cousin relationship than a sibling. Unless you’re willing to move closer to them, all you can do is accept it for what it is. You have a blended family, it’s not going to look the same as the ‘normal’ family. You make it work.
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My husband and I are both in the Army, so it’s not really up to us how close we are to them. We requested getting stationed an hour away from them but we got denied. We’re going to try again when our time here is up. We get them for 2 months every summer, their spring break and every other Christmas. It’s just difficult to come to terms with the fact that they aren’t going to be as close with their brother. I don’t know how to explain it and I know it’s not anything I can push or control it’d only make things worse. I just have to figure out how to not take it personally
They honestly probably won’t bond like they will with their moms babies with your baby, they live in a different state and don’t see you guys as often. I hope it’s still a good relationship, I’m sure they’ll come around. But I grew up in two different house holds and have a bunch of younger siblings and I have a very different relationship with the ones from my dads house because I didn’t see them as much.
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