Lesbian stuck in A straight mindset

I’ve been in a 5 year old relationship with a man but I don’t feel sexually attached to him, it’s been a very toxic relationship but when we break up I always end up having lots of rushed sex with other men. I never have an connection with them, and I feel as though I am only addicted to the feeling of men having sex with me because I need to feel wanted. I’ve always been attracted to women, ever thought I could really be a lesbian. After thinking about how unconnected I am with these men I began to think maybe I really am gay. Has anyone had an experience like this?