Is sex really that important?

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So I know what you’re thinking...hell yes it is!!!! And trust me I love sex, probably more than the average person but I think I love this man more. I met the perfect guy, he’s such a good guy like a REALLY AMAZING, SWEET, GENUINE guy but...he won’t sleep with me. We’ve been together for a while and every time I put myself out there we will get hot and heavy and then he will stop. He says he overthinks everything and is so nervous. He’s not a virgin, he actually had a lot of casual sex in the past but says that with me it’s different cause he actually cares. Now my question is, what should I do? Keep trying and get “rejected” which is how I feel or give up and move on? Is perfection really perfect if I have to sacrifice? But then again; is it real if you didn’t have anything to compromise? Please give me some advice...

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The sacrifice should be worth it. See it as he’s putting value on you and the relationship by not just seeing you as a random fling. My husband and I didn’t have sex til we were married. Zero regrets!

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Give him time. Maybe he really does like you that much, teenager brain kicks in.
"Omggg it's finally happening aaaand I'm sweating"

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Please don’t chew my head off this is 100% hypothetical, what if he has self esteem issues about his size? Maybe he really does like you a lot and care and he’s scared you will think he’s small or something?

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How long have you been together? Maybe he’s really planning to wait until marriage this time or something and wants it to be special. Why don’t you just ask him when he thinks he’ll be ready?

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1. Let him know that every time it happens you feel rejected and it hurts. He should know how you feel and if he's the right guy he will care. 
2. In the beginning it can be difficult for guys to get it up because just like women there's a lot of things that could be holding him back. The difference is with men it's more visible that they're not getting hard. A sexual relationship needs to be mutual and can take time for both partners to build the trust required to get things going properly. When I got with my husband we had this problem in the beginning.

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Let it be, stop putting yourself out there.  He'll come around when he's ready.

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The same thing happened to me in the past. The guy could never get hard and said he was too scared to get me pregnant😑 after trying several times it just got old and the relationship kinda died. But everyone is different. Maybe you don't think it's that important but to me it was such an important part of connecting on a deeper level.

Is sex really that important?

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