Break up with him?

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I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and we have only had sex three times... once on my birthday, once during Christmas, and once on my birthday again the following year. I used to be sexually active with my previous boyfriends and I have a normal sex drive. He doesnt have any sex drive and it's not for lack of trying on my end.  He can get hard, and he performs well... but he has no sex drive... i have to BEG. And it's starting to frustrate me... what should I do yall....?

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I feel like sex is a very important part of a relationship. If you guys are not sexually compatible it’s something to take seriously. You need to sit down and talk to him if you haven’t already and explain your needs and if he can’t compromise to be able to please you then you have the option to end it. Don’t let people tell you your selfish. Sex is important and if there’s not compromise or open communication about your needs it’s not gonna work.

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Your options are selfish

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If you are unhappy talk tl him about. Figure out together why he has no sex drive. Is he tired? Is not sexually attracted to you? Does he like sex? Does he need to see a doctor? Maybe his testosterone levels are too low. But if you are unhappy and he doesnt want to engage in more intimacy then just leave so no one cheats and no on gets hurt and so there is no resentment in your relationship.

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That’s not a normal sex drive for a healthy young male. He needs to talk to a doctor honestly. I would be super sexually frustrated but also concerned he has some sort of health issue.

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So I've read all the comments and all your replies to those comments. To me it sound like you don't want to leave him just yet. So try speaking to him one last time. If he doesn't try and change for you then I think you should leave because being physically active with your SO is just as important as being emotionally involved with them. If he doesn't try to change for you or at least do things you wanna do once in a while, then he's not worth your time and effort

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Have you tried talking to him? There may be a reason for it. Medication is a big one or there could be another health issue going on

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He may be asexual or demisexual. If you cant accept that then its timw for you to move on. You dont need to "fix him". Lack of sexual desire is not a fault.

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Have you bothered to speak with him about it? 
With the busy lives that my SO and I lead we sometimes “help ourselves”. There was a time where he helped himself so much that he didn’t want to perform for/with me.
Perhaps that is the case, but there could be other reason— you won’t know until you openly speak about it with him.

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Maybe go to couples counselling?

Break up with him?

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