HELP PLEASE

Okay this is a little tmi but i’m really tight down there, like i couldn’t wear a tamping until the first time i was fingered by my ex. Well i met this guy and he’s amazing and last night we messed around and then in the morning i told him i want him to take my virginity he asked me if i was sure like a million times and then when he went to go try, he literally couldn’t get his dick in. So he tried to finger me w 2 fingers bc his middle finger barley fit in and he popped my cherry ( i think idk everytime i’ve done stuff i bleed) and then i was hurting from it so i told him we were going to have to try again but like what am i supposed to do?!

update// well i think i found out what my problem was, it’s something when he fingers me bc we actually got it in and we had sex and it was great and then when i got up i had blood everywhere on the bed and on the condom. but before we did it he fingered me really hard i had to tell him to stop and then when we’re cleaning up he had like a literal piece of me on his finger so i think he’s just too rough when he fingers me 🤷🏼‍♀️