Was I too harsh?🤔😓

I dumped my bf a week ago, this is the second time I did it. The first time I really didn’t want to dump him but i hated that things weren’t changing because I told him I didn’t feel like I was in a relationship because he gave me the biggest red flag that I hate which is to keep people out his business so we keep low key and after that he had took me off his snap and unfollowed me off Instagram, he said he was mad at that time but he kept my number just Incase. We tried our relationship again but at one point he didn’t text or call to see if I was doing ok for a week and he left me confused thinking we’re done or something and then he wants to come to school and smile with me but still didn’t text the day after that, so I couldn’t take it no more so I texted that to him.......I really didn’t want it to end as much as I made it clear because I really like him but he just started to treat me like shit, I even told him how much I miss how we use to be and he said we can be but he shows otherwise and sometimes I think it’s because I’ve never let him have sex because we tried EVERYTIME but I back out because it hurts sooo much😒. Now he blocked my number🤦🏽‍♀️ I wish he could fight for us just like how would’ve but idk if it’s because I’m always dumping him