I feel like everyone needs to understand that just because someone has a child or children already doesn’t mean the days or years of trying doesn’t hurt any less. That the consistent BFN doesn’t make us cry any less. This can be a very painful process and we need to be building each other up with our comments not tearing each other down. We all have a wish for a child. Whether we are trying for baby # 1, baby # 3, or baby # 5, we are all trying for the same goal so be KIND!