So I need some advice. A few years ago I got out a 6 year relationship, my best friend at the time tried to help me get through it by setting me up on a date with a friend of hers. On that date, her friend raped me. I didn’t know what to do and felt so disgusting and horrible about myself. I went to her and told her what happened. She didn’t believe me, she said he’d never do that. That if I had sex that I “regretted ,can’t just throw the word rape around” this crushed me. I knew what happened to me but I had no one on my side. A couple weeks later, I met my now husband and he really helped me through it. He took time to all my doctors appointments and really helped my healing, then later we started dating. My best friend was angry that I started dating him and proceeded to post on Facebook that I lied about being raped and that I’m a compulsive liar and should be put into a mental institution.

It wasn’t her secret to tell. If I wanted everyone to know what happened to me I would’ve told them! It really really had the worst impact on my mental health... my husband encouraged me to end my friendship with her. I did and deleted all my social media so I didn’t have to see the things she was saying about me. I pursued my relationship with the Lord and my now husband. I became the happiest I’ve ever been! I finally felt healed!

Fast forward 3 years later, this girl showed up at my house. She apologized for everything. Said he admitted to raping me. Said she felt so much guilt for what she did to me that she wanted to repair our relationship. I told her I would never ever be able to be her friend, but I did forgive her. Now it’s been months, she and I talk now and then. I went to her baby shower and update her periodically on my life. But my husband REALLY really doesn’t like it. He says that I should not be talking to her and every time she texts me, my husband says that he doesn’t understand why I let her back in my life.

I don’t know if I’m doing the wrong thing by being friendly with her. I do like her, she’s always been a good friend other than this one occasion. But she betrayed me when I needed her most. I forgive her for what she did and I believe the Lord wants me to forgive her. But should I steer clear of her? I don’t know what to do. I am 23 and feel like I should be moving past all of this. I’m just looking for advice. Sorry for the long post.