Does rape count as sex/losing virginity?

Question

My first sexual experience was being raped. Does this count as losing my virginity?

Accepted Answer

No. Virginity can only be given, not taken. Anyone who says otherwise is wrong. I'm sorry this happened to you ❤️

Answer

Losing your virginity is the first time you have sex 
Sex has to be consensual 
Rape is not consensual so it’s not losing your virginity

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I was molested as a child and my hymen was broken. I never considered it. I was 16 when I lost my virginity to my first love, my high school sweetheart. Not the monsters that took so much from me.

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Virginity is a societal construct, so it's really up to you. But many survivors who go through this will choose to not include it as the lose of their virginity because they did not consent.

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By definition yes, but I believe survivors don't have to go by definition and that losing ones virginity should only be considered lost when there is consent on both sides.

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Physically yes, spiritually and emotionally no.

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I have the same problem, so to save the confusion I just say ‘the first time I had sex’ rather than ‘when I lost my virginity’

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Not unless you want it to. Most people equate losing virginity to the breaking of the hymen. I broke my hymen when I was water skiing at 9 years old. Water skiing did not take my virginity. These days many, if not most, women define losing their virginity as the first time they engage in consensual sex.

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100% depends on the person. My friend counts her assault as ”losing her virginity”, and the first time with her bf as ”haveing sex for the first time”.

Does rape count as sex/losing virginity?

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