I’m Mexican (& so are my parents) and my fiancé is American. Our initial plan was to get married through court, move in together and then have the reception in a year or two to be able to save money. When we told that idea to my parents they rejected it and said “you HAVE to get married through church before moving in so you can have God’s blessing” so I went ahead and am planning the religious wedding and reception.

Since I still live with my parents (I’m 23, they’ve supported me all through college) and my dad got a job in another state, i technically HAVE to move with them for 6 months and then I’d be able to move in with with my future husband after the wedding. I’ve weighed in the pros and cons and aside from being 5 hours away and not being able to see my fiancé every weekend like I do now (he lives 2hrs away), I would like to go ahead and get a full time job where we’ll be living and get through the adjustment phase before the wedding so everything’s not as hard after it.

I kinda spoke to my parents about it and they refuse to accept me moving out, and they want me to move with them since “if he loves you he’s gonna wait for you as long as you need to be away.”

Is it really that bad to move in a couple of months before the wedding? I’ve been having stress and anxiety attacks trying to make a decision and knowing that if I do my parents are gonna be disappointed and mad at me😩