Am I wrong?

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So I discovered my husband made a fake Meetme account and used an alias by me going to use his phone to set a timer for dinner when an email came through. The first time I asked him about it he had said that he didn’t know what I was talking about. With some more questioning he came clean. I’ve been working a lot of overtime and am not home nearly as much anymore. He said he felt lonely because I can’t always talk to him while I’m working and he just wanted someone to talk to. However once he logged on for me, he let me open the chat section where he messaged at least 50 women telling them how beautiful they are to include a “you’re the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met” and a “I’d put a baby in you anytime” which really hurt me because we have been ttc for a year... He’s not angry that I’m upset but he deleted his account and apologized and just asks that I give him more of my time. Am I wrong for still being upset over the situation? I feel like such a lousy wife for not realizing working so much was causing me to neglect my husbands needs. No rude comments please.

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Once a cheater always a cheater. He tried to blame you for his actions 😂 boy bye 👋

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Your husband is manipulating you into thinking it’s you’re fault when clearly he’s the one that screwed up. You should be very upset

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So it’s your fault you’re a working adult?? No. He’s just a pathetic cheater. He was lonely so he messaged 50 women about THEY are the most beautiful women he’s seen and he would put a baby in them??? No no. He could pack his shit and get the fuck. You are 100% not at fault, your husband is and more because he is letting you blame yourself! Smh.

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You have every right to be upset and feel betrayed in my opinion. I'm tired of this double standard that woman have. We are expected to tend to every need of a man or it's ok for them to do this type of stuff. But if a woman does it, that means divorce is in the cards. It's doesn't make sense. How are a woman's needs any different from a man's and vice versa? Feel mad if that's what you feel is right!!!! Neglecting him or not does not mean he has the right to emotional cheat on you. It's not like you didn't have a reason. You were working! He should have come and talked to you. Let yourself feel what you need to feel then you both can do what needs to done to correct this. Don't let anyone shame you into thinking you are in the wrong. He made the mistake, not you. Wishing you all the best. Xo

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Absolutely not girl a lot of women would’ve kicked him out and said goodbye. Don’t let him make you feel bad for his mistakes. Your working!! Not hanging out with friends or partying your providing for your family. He’s needs to get his shit straight and figure his life out.

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First off, it is NOT your fault. Your husband clearly lacks communication skills. If I were in your shoes, my bags would be packed because I don’t tolerate being played. You are working long hours to provide for your family, correct? If he was lonely, he could join a club or league to fill his time with other people but he CHOOSE to stray from you and look for other women’s attention. He could have choose to communicate with you about how he felt. He’s just a shady guy and unfortunately I’ve never heard of someone not cheating again. If you’re willing to stay though, I’d recommend couples therapy. He’s simply lost your trust and its going to cause so many problems. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

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Girl this is not your fault. There are plenty of other social media sites that are for friends only if he was lonely. Meet me is a hookup site. The types of messages he was sending them sounded like he was trying to get laid. You had every right to be angry. Don’t let him put this on you. It’s on him.

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FUCK HIM
FUCK HIM
FUCK HIM
what a fucking douche bag. He doesn’t deserve you and btw FUCK HIM

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Hell no, don’t let that man put u in a guilt trip. It wouldn’t matter if u did or didn’t work overtime he has no right getting on to that site n messaging any one. Saying I’ll put a baby in u, gtfoh my husband n I would be done bc to me ur intentions aren’t pure at all n who knows if he would have ever met up with any girl if u never saw it. He is wrong on so many levels

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You're not wrong at all..honestly that's considered emotionally cheating😐 If he truly cared, he wouldn't have even considered it in the first place and talked to you instead. You're not lousy at all, he should have said something. Stay strong, you are worth more then that💖

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