I’m going to make this as short as possible. Before I was with my husband I had a boyfriend of 7 years. Anyways, I keep journals and write in them everyday. It’s my form of therapy and a way of letting things out of my mind so I don’t obsess over them. My husband knows this and I have always asked him to respect my privacy and not read my journals because they are private thoughts. Just like I wouldn’t want him to hear my entire session with a therapist if I went to one.

Over a year ago I got over 20 missed calls from an unknown number in one day. I had a strong feeling it was my ex since I had blocked him on everything. I told my husband about it and that was it. I never tried to reach out to my ex and I let it go. But I did journal about it on a loose piece of paper. I wrote about how I felt that something may be wrong ( he has a history of depression and I knew his grandmother was sick for a while) or maybe he heard that my dad had died. I wrote that I actually had been thinking of my ex because my dad struggled with mental illness and addiction and worried my ex may end up the same one day.

So anyways I wrote all of this down and put it away in my purse to throw out later and moved on.

Well my husband decided to clean out our closet today while I was at work and then decided to clean out my purses as well???? He found this entry and took a picture of it and sent it to me. He says he is very hurt and angry that was thinking about and writing about my ex.

I personally think he had no right to go into my bags (even though he had good intentions) and no right to read my stuff after I’ve asked him not to before. And I hid nothing from him regarding that situation- he knew about the missed calls. I understand it may have hurt to read it... but this was none of his business.

I just feel conflicted on how I should approach this situation or if my feelings towards it are even justified.