Have you had to put off concieving because of your weight?

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Both my PCP and GYN gave me big NOs when it comes to TTC based on my weight. I just hit 300. 😓😔🙁 
I have a good plan worked out to change my diet and get a good exercise routine going again, but I feel so ashamed. I struggle with depression (coping mechanism is eating) and have thyroid issues. I've found more creative coping mechanisms like coloring and nails (teaching myself gel and acrylics).  
I'm 30 and never thought I'd be in this situation and have gotten so unhealthy. I'm curious if anyone else has experienced something similar and what came of it? Or if you're going through the same thing? 
All of my friends are either pregnant or healthy and trying. Being I just got married too, everyone expects us to have kids ASAP. 😓 I'm going to have to figure out how to get family members off my back when it comes to getting pregnant until I can get the weight off. Advice welcome! 
Pic of me and my new hubby as a thanks for reading!

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So I was about 280lbs when my SO tried the first time back in 2016. I did florid for 5 months and nothing. I gained weight and became 310 lbs and we still couldn’t conceive. When I brought it up to my Ob/Gyn she did a PAP and physical with a full blood panel and I was healthy, other than my weight so she gave me a green light she also gave me a referral to see an infertility specialist. Well, that Dr told me he wouldn’t help us in any way whatsoever ever until my BMI was 35 or lower. I was heart broken. From that day I chose to get healthy. 
My journey included have bariatric surgery April 2017, then April 2018 mg SO and I finally became husband and wife. I know it’s degrading being told your weight is the issue. It sucks and it mAkes you feel like shit. One day I will go back to that Dr and tell him to suck an egg because not only is my weight under control but I’m on the TTC journey and it will not be with him. 
So here’s what you do. You make a plan, you learn to meal prep, you start going to the gym. You start taking prenatal vitamins (your hubby to) and you make your weight not even a factor. My OB/GYN once told me that even if I lost 10 lbs it could make a world of difference. So start there. 10 lbs at a time. Get in your 60+ oz of water a day, your   60-120g of lean protein a day, you eat all the veggies you want and you keep yourself active and in the process of you turn up prego then okay, if not, don’t deviate from your plan and keep going. This is your journey and being a mom is your dream do this for you, no one else! 
I may not be a mom yet, and I may only be 210 lbs now but I’m taking my journey a day at a time, 10 lbs at a time. One day will be our day! 
Ps: I’m 30 too.

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I weigh 300 and I’m pregnant

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I'm sorry to hear that! I am about 250 and had a really hard time getting pregnant. Fertility wouldnt help us until I  got my BMI down to 40. Ended up getting pregnant before then. I 100% understand the doctors concerns due to increased risks associated with obese pregnancies, but that doesnt make it hurt any less. That said, I have heard of people 300+ having healthy pregnancies. Your call but maybe couldnt hurt to shop around doctors while you work on becoming your best self for a healthy pregnancy. Could be that there I'd a practice that has a lower threshold for pregnancy weight readiness.

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My fiancé and I have put off having kids until I’m healthy. I’m 240 but I’m really short so I have a ways to go before I’m at a healthy weight. We are getting married on Saturday and are flat broke from paying for our wedding. So we are not eating healthy right now. But we have decided that we will both be changing our diet, focusing on cutting out carbs and upping our amount of healthy fats (KETO) as recommended by my OBGYN to help with my weight and PCOS as soon as we are married and have that ability. We also are slowly wanting to cut out GMO foods as the hormones are closely related to rapid weight gain. I personally want to wait to have kids until I’m healthy, so that my kids are healthier, my breast milk is healthier, and because I’m already nervous about my level of discomfort during my pregnancies. 
By the way your are gorgeous! You look amazing in the photo you posted!!!

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I weigh 250 and had lost 50 before ttc now I am 2nd guessing if I had lost enough. I wish I lost more before trying

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Just got from 225 to 190 and idc. Ive done well and i have so many other illnesses that are only gonna get worse with age. Im almost 29 and have no kids. Its time. This body wont wait forever.

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Pcp?
Cant say iv exactly been in your shoes. My husband and I don't want kids yet just due to our positions in life really. We want these things before we have kids:
..Both have good jobs
..10 grand in saving for a while
..me to be fully ready to stay home with the kids and work from home ( just our plan...no comments please)
..all the drama my family keeps starting to be dealt with officially.
..our house to be done.
See my family doesn't want us to have kids so they don't ask. But when my husband's family brings it up we just say we've got a few more things to take care of before we try for kids. 
  My BMI is 46.3 last I checked but there's not anything more I can do about it. I have researched and tried a lot and nothing works for my body right now.

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DO NOT let doctors tell you that you can’t carry a baby helathly. I was over weight both pregnancies and both my baby’s were healthy and born on their due dates. Your weight does not define health and health doesn’t mean you can’t carry a baby and remember the older you get the harder pregnancy is on your body. Better to conceive now sooner than later

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No one can tell you what to do as far as ttc not even your doctors.  Always remember the ultimate decision is yours and your husbands.  It’s good to know about the risks and make sure you and your husband are ok w them but it’s always your choice.  That said. I think being at a healthy weight probably makes ttc easier.  I’m about 190.  I got that way because of drugs that I had to take to function.  I wish I hadn’t gained so much.  But it really wasn’t to controllable.  I didn’t eat extra or anything the drugs just did that.  Before that I was extremely skinny.  105.  So it’s like I gained a whole person in two months.  It was really depressing at first but as far as asthetics I got over it eventually.   But I never had any idea the weight I gained would
Have a strong impact on ttc.  Now I’m not as much upset w how I look but how it affects my fertility.

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I am 29yrs old. Not too long ago got married as well. I wasn’t told to lose weight before conceiving but it made a world of difference. Especially if you have depression issues. I lost 30lbs and got pregnant when we weren’t even trying. I was 260 before lost 30lbs (felt WONDERFUL btw!!) now I’m 27wks pregnant. I think it’s super important bc I typically develop high blood pressure when I’m pregnant. We lost a baby before due to it. I suggest it. It’s ultimately your decision but It’s much healthier for the baby and for you during pregnancy. If I had to do it all over again I would have tried losing more weight before hand. I will for the next baby no doubt about it.

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