I feel like God is speaking to me about forgiving some people in my life. So a couple years back, one of my uncles was caught stealing money from my grandpa (his dad) and he also threatened my grandma (his mom) so the family cut him out. We then later found out he was accused of having an affair with an underage girl (although it was just allegations and nothing was actually proven). Still, my family cut him, his wife, and kids out. We don’t talk about them or acknowledge our relation to them.

My dad has been working to forgive him and rebuild a brotherly relationship and has been hanging out with him in secret. Today I ran into his oldest daughter (my cousin) while she was at work and it shocked me a little and I tried to avoid her and it made me feel guilty and cry after I got home so I prayed about it. I’m just not sure who or what to believe. Family is family, but I don’t want to seem like I’m condoning what he did or be seen as a traitor by the other members and the thought of acting like certain people in my family don’t exist makes me feel like a mean person and I’m not a mean person. It’s so bad that he and his family were not allowed to show up to my grandpa’s funeral or any other family function. My other uncle suggested that we didn’t even tell him his own father passed away. My grandma threw out all of the pictures from when he was growing up and refuses to acknowledge him as her son. When people ask her how many children she has, she’ll say 3 instead of 4. It’s pretty ugly. My other uncle doesn’t even refer to him by name. I feel like I’m at a crossroads wondering what purpose God has for this situation and trying to piece together how I feel about the situation instead of what the other members of my family want me to think. Prayer or special bible verses or words of wisdom are greatly welcome.