Can You Really Have Both?

Question

I'm 20, bisexual, and never had a sexual experience with a girl. I have an amazing bf and we're in a Long distance relationship, he loves and supports that I'm bisexual which is amazing! However I feel a void of not being sexual with a girl and he wants me to fulfill that but, I just feel guilty and selfish, I've only dated ONE girl in my entire life and kissed a couple but, never sexual with them. I've been sexual with boys (like 2 I've had sex with), and I'm wondering if what I'm wanting is selfish and just wrong. Please help 😔.

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If your boyfriend is aware of your needs and consents to you having other partners then there’s really nothing to be guilty about! Just maybe talk to him and set some boundaries before you go looking for another partner to make sure you are on the same page!

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Yeah I totally feel this. I’m bi, I’m with my boyfriend now (and I’m SUPER happy with him) but he’s my first everything. First kiss, first date, first relationship, first time having sex. So I’ve never even kissed a girl or anything. I actually didn’t even realize I was bi until about the time we started dating.☹️ He’s bi too, (and I’m also his first everything😊😊), and I worry that at some point we’re both gonna feel like we’re “missing out”—but I don’t think either of us is ever gonna be comfortable going poly, as we’re both VERY possessive and jealous haha. (I’m a healthy way!) But if going poly were an option for me (and I were actually comfortable with it), I would 100% jump on it. Girls are fucking hot, man.😍🤤😂
But then again, YOU have to be comfortable going poly too. I would love to do it if I had the opportunity, but I know for me personally I don’t ever want to have sex with somebody I’m not in love with and who I don’t trust 110%, and I couldn’t get to that point without being in a romantic relationship as well. And you sound like you have other qualms about it too. It’s really great that your boyfriend is willing to let you experiment, but if YOU don’t feel comfortable with it, it shouldn’t happen. I would suggest taking some time to do some deep thinking—journal it out maybe, or maybe schedule an appointment with a therapist to talk about it?—to figure out what’s holding you back from feeling comfortable going for it, and to decide whether that’s something you can work through and get over, or whether it’s not.
Best of luck!💗

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Aye girl I just seen yo post I feel the same way I’m bi ive never been sexual with a girl like I want a girl so bad I feel like it’s selfish too but if he said go for it then just do it girl ....hmu if you wanna talk 😉☺️

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Im in the same boat.. but my boyfriend isnt so supportive and it sucks. Maybe ill stay a "virgin" all my life :x lol

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