I need to vent

I’m tired of feeling like I’m the only one putting in effort in my relationship. I hate always initiating sex, asking him to cuddle with me, anything affectionate. I’m tired of the video games taking over the entire night every day and I’m expected to just watch. I hate that I have to make us plans or we do nothing. Most of all I hate the fact that if I leave he doesn’t chase me. He claims he loves me but when conflict arises it’s like I don’t matter. I hate feeling like I don’t matter, i can’t stand feeling like I’m in a relationship with myself. I don’t know what to do. I spill my heart out and voice my every concern and I never get a serious reply, I get “sorry” every once in a while but I never see change. Why can’t my feelings matter just as much as his? Why can’t my happiness be put first.