I’m so conflicted. What do I do?

This is a long story and I desperately need some insight and advice as I’m at a loss. I’ll try to keep it short, and point-form as much as possible... Please read the whole post before voting.

Some background.

- I have a seven year old son and have been a single mom for his whole life.

- I was 19 when I had him, but put myself through university, and worked my butt off to end up in a career position in marketing.

- I recently bought a condo, a little over a year ago, only 7 months into my career.

- Fun fact: my son and I have two lovely, hilarious cats.

Now onto the relationship history...

- My boyfriend and I started dating in February this year.

- In April we found out we were expecting. It was a surprise pregnancy and we were shocked, but once we got over the shock we were excited.

- Sadly, that pregnancy ended in an 11 week missed miscarriage a few days before my son’s 7th birthday.

- Our relationship has been a rollercoaster from the start, with multiple times where we have broken up and got back together.

Now, onto the situation at hand…

- In July of this year, we started planning for my son and I to move into his house with him. We felt like this was a good idea, and given that we had been through so much early in our relationship we felt that we knew each other well enough to do so. Also, if we didn’t move now, we knew it would be a year before we would revisit the idea because I didn’t want to move my son in the middle of the school year.

- We moved in at the end of August, and have been there for about 3 months. I rented my condo out to a group of university students when we decided to move.

- The main reason we moved to his house is because he has a large dog, and dogs over 35lbs are not allowed at my condo.

- Another reason we moved to his place is because my boyfriend has expressed many times that he has zero interest in living in the city, as he lived in the city his whole life and prefers the country. I, on the other hand, lived in a small town my whole life and HATED it. I moved to the city the weekend I graduated high school and never looked back.

- My boyfriend’s house is very close to my workplace, but very far from my family. My son is very close with my family, which has made this transition very hard. However, it has meant I can get to work in just 10 minutes, rather than 55, which has been of benefit.

- His house is also in a very small town outside the city where I’ve spent the last 9 years of my life, and where my son has spent his entire life. That transition has been very difficult, as it meant him moving away from all of his friends he’s known his whole life, and both of us moving away from where we are comfortable.

- To make matters worse, his new school has a very different French Immersion program than the one he was formerly enrolled in. This has resulted in my son being very behind on the English side, which has been a struggle to watch, as he has always been so strong in school. It breaks my heart seeing him feel like he’s not doing well. I have had to get him a tutor twice a week, which is an extra unexpected expense on my already tight budget.

So, here’s where I am today..

- My boyfriend and I have been having relationship issues. We haven’t been communicating effectively, and I feel that we have become distant since I moved in. This has happened a few times in past in our relationship, where I feel that he just stops caring and trying at all, however since we moved in, I have noticed it even more. We don’t talk – he just watches his sports and plays PS4. I have made mention of this lapse in communication multiple times, but have seen no change.

- My family dislikes my boyfriend, and feel that I can do much better. They have made that very clear, and are adamant that we should move home. They feel that he is manipulative, and have major concerns about our relationship. They would prefer to see me without him, and the more I try to get some perspective, the more I am seeing their point on how manipulative he can be, and how easily I fall for it.

- I HATE his dog. He drives me absolutely crazy, as he doesn’t listen at all. He has also started biting my son when he gets very riled up for no reason. And he torments my cats which pisses me off, because they’re my babies and I adore them.

- I am currently 9 weeks pregnant tomorrow with our rainbow baby. As I live in Canada, I will be taking maternity leave for a year, starting in June next year, and am planning to go back to school to complete the 2 years necessary for me to teach High School Education, which was my original plan when I started university. I’m going to start in Fall 2019, and am planning to bring baby with me to school.

- I have spoken to my renters and they are looking for another place to move into for Dec. 1, if they can find one. I am ready to move home into our little condo, and to get my son back into his original school. It will mean my budget is incredibly tight, but I will make it work because I want to do what is best for my son.

- I’m currently talking to my son’s old school to get him re-enrolled, and am trying to get in touch with people who are in charge of hockey so that he can hopefully get enrolled in hockey at his old community club so he doesn’t miss out on the rest of the season because we move. I’m also hoping I can get some of my money back from the programs he’s currently enrolled in, as I’m pretty broke right now.

This is my dilemma… I can’t decide what to do. I love my boyfriend, and now that I am ready to move he has stepped up his game and is being much more attentive, but I can’t help but feel that something is off. I feel like this will last for a month, if I’m lucky, then we’ll be back to the same old, same old.

Ultimately, I need to figure out if I’m staying with him and continuing to live there, if I’m moving home and going to continue dating him, if I’m moving home and going to see what happens with our relationship, or if I am leaving him completely. If you were in my situation… what would you do?