I told him I’m no longer attracted to him...*UPDATE*

We have been together for 11 years. I gained some weight, he gained a lot. He has a long beard and mustache that he doesn’t keep trim. We rarely have sex, when we do, his naked body turns me OFF.

I have been miserable and nit-picky with him. I realized it was sexual frustration and lack of attraction.

After doing some research, it turns out lack of attraction is a common problem in marriages. Sexual frustration also causes a bunch of nasty issues. So I decided it was time to come clean.

I told him I’m sexually frustrated and dealing with a lack of attraction. I said he deserves to have a wife who is attracted to him and I deserve to be attracted to my husband.....

He said “ok have a nice life”.

I’m like “wait you don’t want to work on this?”

After a long discussion about what we both were unhappy with, we came to an agreement.

He is going to join me in a daily workout routine and give up fast food. I’m going to pack his lunches and do better on dinners. He agrees to have more sex starting at once a week, working our way up to 3 times a week. I’m going to have the bed made, laundry done and bathroom clean everyday.

The point of this post is: Keep your communication lines open. If you are unhappy in your relationship, talk about it and be willing to compromise! Work as a team! If it’s broken - FIX IT TOGETHER!Thanks for listening.

P.S. we had mind blowing sex after the conversation.

*UPDATE*

Thank you for the support! It’s nice to read the kind words.

Some of you are saying I got the bad end of the deal, because I am doing more work. He works 40+ hours a week, and I work 8. I stay home with our daughter, so there really isn’t a reason why I can’t have the house clean and meals made. I got lazy with my duties and he got lazy with his appearance.

We BOTH were unsatisfied with each other. He was unhappy with my housekeeping, cooking and overall attitude, I was unhappy with his appearance and was sexually frustrated.

I never once said I didn’t love my husband because he let himself go. I am human, I am young, and I want to be physically stimulated and sexually satisfied. Physical and emotional attract are both important in a marriage.

We have been having so much fun doing our workouts. It’s really helping us bond again. We have been doing Nancy Taylor YouTube workout videos. I LOVE Nancy Taylor, but my husband isn’t too keen of her. If you can suggest a good YouTube workout video then please comment!!!

P.S. I work as a bartender 4 hour shifts twice a week and I make $300-400 a week doing it. So yes, an 8 hour a week job can exist.