I have two kids ( 1 year old and 2 year old girls )

I would ask my mother and sisters to watch them 2-3 times a month just so I can run errands or have a husband/wife day once a month.

They watch them but they also talk so much .

They’d complain .

If I say I can’t take my kids here or there they’re like “ but that’s your kid “ “ why you had 2 then “

“ throw them out then if you can’t watch them “ ( as a joke obviously ) .

We’re currently looking to move and me and my husband travel 1-2 hours from house to house to see which one we would like to live in but when we take the kids they cry in the car because of the long drives . They start puking . Or something happens . And they’re just like .. “ well where u gonna leave them take them “

Like I’m the type of person who doesn’t wanna be a burden to my parents and siblings but sometimes they make me feel so bad . I know they’re my kids. I spend 24hrs / 7 days with them I don’t go out anywhere . Besides my moms house . All I expect is a little help from my mom bevause well she’s my mom but I get all this negative vibe like ugh she wants to leave them with me ... then I feel so hurt.

It’s worse cos my mother in law whose all the way across the world is always telling me oh lemme watch the kids you go do this go do that. Go sleep. Go shower. And she’s so eager to spend time with them. But my own mom and sisters are always complaining . I just want a day or two in a month to relax .. I think I deserve that. But I guess like they say “ they’re my kids “ .