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So I'm a senior in high school and I'm really struggling with several things. I know I will be an adult in under a year and I have horrible nightmares, fear of abandonment, difficulty with confrontation, overreacting, etc. It's so hard for me to act like a "grown-up" when I can't even handle simple tasks. I've looked up my symptoms and it pulled up borderline personality disorder but I want to check with a doctor and get help before I'm on my own. Any other ideas what could be going on with me?

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I think it’s great that you are considering help. I wish I would have come to that conclusion sooner. If you think professional help would benefit you, don’t hesitate! Best to talk to someone now than wait for yourself to feel worse. I pushed my anxiety disorder away for so long it turned to a deep depression. Once I realized I had a real problem, it gave me the strength to fight it, you know? Good luck to you. It seems like you have a good head on your shoulders. One thing I read once when I felt like I was just crazy and a failure, was that a true crazy person wouldn’t know they had a problem and that recognizing you need help is evidence of your own sanity! That helped me a lot. You have a tighter grasp on the situation than you realize, simply by acknowledging a situation exists! Also if you’re into self help books, there’s a great book written by a psychologist with a cognitive behavioral approach called “The Anxiety Toolkit” and it’s really helped me slow down and accept that I don’t need to hate that side of myself. It even gives tips on how to use your mental illness to discover hidden strengths! Anyway, I could ramble on, but I hope you find the help and the peace you need. For what it’s worth, grown ups are all still figuring life out!

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I’m 19 and “acting like a grown up” is overrated. I don’t think I act like one at all. I had/have the same issues and when I was in high school I basically ended up joining the military. Never thought I’d ever do that. If you knew me in high school it wouldn’t make sense, but it’s the best thing I could’ve done bc they teach you how to be mature. Not a grown up. Trust me, there’s a lot of people I know that are way older and still not grown up. I still overreact and everything. I’m just teaching myself to control it. You just end up acting more maturely out of circumstance. Something may come up and you rationalize. That’s pretty much the only way I can explain it. Just rationalize and focus on making sure everything is okay. That’s what being a “grown up” boils down to. I’m 19, married, and dual military. A lot will change between now and your birthday. Now and graduation. Graduation and whatever. You got it though. If you ever need anything I’m here!

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Take some time each weekend to learn a task that you're worried about. Don't know how to cook? Learn how to make Mac and cheese or spaghetti and bread. Don't know how to write your resume? Look up some samples and then get creative. Don't know how to sew? That's okay, the most you'll really ever need to know is how to reattach a button. Learn how to iron so you can patch holes and do your own hemming. Help Mom/dad out with the dishes and laundry if you don't already. And while it IS normal to be worried and nervous, if you can't go a day without being overwhelmed by the thoughts, definitely talk to your doctor.

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I feel as if your just a lil nervous about growing up and it's totally normal, it's apart of growing up . But if you feel as if the way you think can harm you or others then yes maybe you should go talk to a school counselor

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