Mommy issues

I just need a safe space to vent here for a minute. Let me start my saying that I love my mom and she basically raised all 3 of us by herself since my dad worked nights (still does to this day) and had to sleep during the day to provide for us. That being said, any time I tell her about an issue I have with my daughter, most recently potty training and the terrible twos, she tells me what I’m doing is wrong and it won’t work. This is not a new occurrence, she has been like this since my daughter was born. It’s like if I don’t do things exactly the way she does it, then it’s wrong in her eyes.

She was never very supportive when I breastfed my daughter and said “I just don’t understand why you’re doing it, we bought you formula. It’s easier” and it has just gotten worse since then. Every time my daughter gets sick it’s because I don’t clean enough or give her enough juice, etc. Hell, when I bring my daughter over there for a bath she tells me I’m bathing her wrong.

She constantly makes me feel guilty for letting my daughter spend time with my husbands family because “girls are supposed to be close with their mother.”

I can’t talk to her about it either because in her eyes, she’s helping me. I know she means well but oh my Lord I am so sick of it. Even my mother in law doesn’t say things like that to me! My husband and his family always tell me that I am a great mom and am doing a wonderful job. I want my daughter to have a good relationship with my mom but I am so tired of the criticizing. Anyone else have a mom like this? Rant over, thanks for reading