Recently my husband has been diagnosed with depression. He is currently attending counseling and it is helping slightly, but he still has no desire to do anything aside from play video games. I have observed and he has mentioned that it’s the only thing that he enjoys doing right now. It’s like pulling teeth to get him to go to the store with me, or go out to dinner. (For example, My birthday was this last week and we had a fun day planned and halfway through my lunch he started complaining he felt sick and we ended up coming home- but as soon as we were home he just laid around and watched tv and played games.) Point being- I am needing some advice. I am a stay at home mom, and we only have one car, so I’m home 90% of the time with my baby. I’d like to go out and do things, but he never wants to. I’ve never (knowingly) dealt with a family member who has a mental illness so I’m new to trying to navigate all this and want to support him; but at the same time, I feel like staying in is making me less happy as well. Is it selfish to say “hey, I’m going to go do __________ with the baby. You’re welcome to join, and I’d love to have you, but you don’t have to come if you don’t feel like it”? I don’t want to come off as unsupportive but I am getting major cabin fever and am lonely and a bit sad because he is so distant and on games all the time. I know it’s not all his fault, as I’ve heard depression can cause a desire to stay in and it’s hard to feel motivated. I just would like to get out once or twice a week and do something relaxing or fun for me since I am home all the time alone with baby. I just need a break from my norm sometimes. But again, I’m not sure if it would make him feel abandoned or not. Do any of you have any insight to help? For those who struggle with depression, how can I maybe support him? Any ideas to balance going out/staying in?