I’ve been with my SO for almost 2 years. We have a son together.. he’s 14 months. He’s helps raise my daughter from a past relationship. She’s 8. He’s an iron worker and since our son was born.. he has travelled all over the states. He’s been in TX since the beginning of this year. We made a decision to move. Uprooted my daughter which was hell. Left my friends and family behind. All because he said he wanted us all together. It was all we ever talked about.

I got here. Sad and missing my family. We started having issues after he lost his job. He got really secretive with his phone. Would stay in his truck making phone calls. Claimed it was guys from work. I have for the last month and a half repeatedly asked if there was someone else. Told me no. Got super pissed off.

I noticed yesterday one of his “girl” friends sent him a photo. I open his tablet. Mind you... I have NEVER broken his privacy. I see his other friend of 14 years... had video chatted. I open it and there it is in my face. When he’s not calling me in his night shifts... he’s calling her. Telling her he loves her. What it would be like if they ever got the chance to be a couple. He told me I NEVER had to worry about her or any of his female friends.

I came into the apt in a panic attack with the baby in my arms. He jumps off the couch and I’m crying “why are you cheating on me? Why her?” And we have a convo. He says he fucked up. Said when we were having issues.. he talked to her about them and something sparked. He wants to work it out. How do i trust him? I can’t trust him to talk to her anymore. I have to see him block her from everything and know he had a conversation with her. This whole time I’ve been working to better myself he’s been behind my back. She mocked my depression .. he laughed. He fucking laughed ladies. But... sometimes it isn’t so easy to leave you know? If I leave... I feel like he’ll go right to her. He gets what he wants. He has his son he can see from time to time. He thinks he wins.

Please don’t bash me. I’m so broken right now. Just looking for unbiased advice. Everyone wants me to go back to NY.