I’ve been with my fiancé for a little over a year and a half. I love him so much but, I’m pretty sure he struggles with ADD and it’s making life so hard. I’m trying really hard to make things work but it’s so frustrating sometimes. He taps on everything, spaces out constantly and will play games on his phone or Xbox even if he needs to do something or we do. He told me the other day he feels like he’s an “employee” because I asked him to go out to our fridge in the garage to grab me some coconut milk. I get so frustrated because I’m trying so hard to learn about ADD and how I can help and not sound like his mom. But if I don’t constantly remind him, nothing gets done. He drinks and becomes so angry and argues with me about silly things such as the way I handle conflicts or that I’m outspoken. He’s constantly bringing him self down. Saying he’s stupid and can’t do anything. He’s trained to become a firefighter and is now looking for a job. However he thinks he’s not good enough to actually get hired so he barely tries. Nothing I do helps and I’m a full time student, I work 24 hr shifts as an EMT and im selling on my Poshmark closet and working with Arbonne at the same time. I’m trying to work on my own anxiety and depression as well and it’s become so overwhelming. I think I’m unhappy but I really don’t want to give up. I have no idea what to do... advice anyone? I could really use it.