I have 2 toddlers (one is 3 next month, the other is about 20months old).

We moved 12 hours away from our family & friends about 2 years ago & I personally don't have many new "friends." My husband works, & he has his friends & I know a lot of the wives & they have kids similar ages & they're great. But we hardly get to hang out because either the wives also work, or they're just busy doing normal stay at home mom work.

I don't initiate much with the wives because I'm usually busy too teaching my kids or doing general house work. We do get out, & my kids do go to church with others kids. But my husband get irritated that we never do anything with other people. We do, but it isn't that much. Maybe once a month? Maybe every other month sometimes.

I don't see a problem. But my husband does. I keep trying to tell him this will all be over soon. Once our kids hit preschool they'll be in the social environments & they won't get the slow paced environment at home anymore. They're not socially awkward. When they play with other kids, they're not reserved. They're not socially deprived. My husband thinks it's so important that we go on playdates. I would LOVE to. But it's near impossible to plan & do get frustrated & stop trying a lot.

Am I in the wrong? Should I be trying harder?