Postpartum

It's been 2 weeks since I had my 1st baby. My so has 2 other girls, sometimes I wonder if hes gonna be attentive with mine when he cares for the other 2 more. He hardly holds her it's a struggle if i have to hand her to him so i can go to the bathroom, or if I'm in the tub and she wakes up crying he gets irritated with me because he cant just hand her to me. He says he raised his oldest by himself without his ex help. I said well I'm sorry I'm not her but i would appreciate it if you showed you actually care and not get pissed when she cries in the middle of the night and I cant get her calmed down. One night he jumped up out of bed and said, "I'm done, you obviously cant control her". I said ok fine you can either go to your moms which is 3hrs away or I'll find my suitcase and go to my brothers. He then got extremely pissed and said I'm jumping to conclusions I said you're the one that told me you are done. I've been dropping hints to him and telling him he needs to be more attentive but nothing is changing. Tonight she was awake but he was to engrossed in his video game to notice or want to play with her, she fell asleep so I put her in her bed and went to get in the shower he said he would come join me. 45 min later he gets in as I get out, that made him mad. I'm standing at the sink washing out some of her things she puked all over and hes trying to be all playful sexual towards me, and hes getting mad because I dont reciprocate or acknowledge him. It's not just about the sex, you cant just turn someone on by messing with their sexual parts and i cant get that through his head that i want the little things. Any idea what to do to get through to him?