Long but I’m so mad

So I’m an RN and I had my first miscarriage in October and we have been trying since. I’m always super happy for the people I know that are getting pregnant. I never envy them bc that’s a beautiful thing and everyone should be able to experience that. BUT tonight I had a girl I graduated with message me asking “what happens once the baby is born? Bc I’ve smoked weed every single day that I’ve been pregnant and I’m 37 weeks.” And that made me furious. And I couldn’t help but think “God, you can give us a baby, but you can give someone who is selfish enough to do that every single day with a high possibility of something being wrong with that baby. And here I am healthy, happy, financially stable, and want nothing more than to be a mommy.” And I took a deep breath and realized I didn’t need to question him or get mad at him, but still a little thought was there. I’ll probably get a lot of shit for this, but I don’t think it’s something you should be doing while caring a baby who doesn’t have a say. There have been cases where babies are fine but there are also cases where babies are messed up for life bc of a selfish act like smoking weed. I just don’t understand some people. Anyways I just had to get that out. We’ve been trying and trying and like I said I don’t envy anyone but it’s still upsets me when I hear about stuff like this. Okay that’s all.