Am I wrong to want a break?

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Baby is 8 weeks and honestly I'm exhausted mentally and physically I would just like a break to just do what I like I mean is that wrong ? I know my husband would watch her but I feel guilty to even ask. My husband works out of town a lot so I handle the baby myself pretty much all the time. I know this is probably wrong but I get jealous that my husband gets to leave and sleep in a nice hotel with a king sized bed ALONE! I just need some time for myself! I just dont know how to not feel guilty for it because I know there are single moms who literally never get a break .
Btw I'm a stay at home mom

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He doesn’t have to watch the baby nor do you need to ask, he is a parent. Dad’s don’t babysit. You should take a day off. Even if it’s just running errands alone while he’s home.

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Don’t feel guilty he’s a parent too! But I completely understand.. I told my fiancé the other day i wish babies had a “pause” button so we could go on a date or something lol.. I love being home with my LO and I’m so lucky to not have to go back to work, but he’s EBF and I don’t make enough right now to pump so someone else could feed him.. he also doesn’t let me put him down/ doesn’t sleep well in his crib.. it’s a lot to deal with! I want to take a bath.. and brush my teeth before noon 😅 you’re not alone! Hugs!

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Not wrong at all. I’m a single mom and I crave for a break. It doesn’t make us bad moms and shouldn’t make us feel guilty for wanting time to ourselves. Even if it’s just time for a shower or a trip alone to the store. Or a nap lol. 
If you have the option to ask your husband I’d say do it.

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I went in to my moms for a week at thanksgiving and I had so much help. It was honestly so relaxing because my mom would watch him when he got up so I could go back to sleep until he needed to eat again. I NEVER get to do that at home. Since I’ve been back home, I would just love someone to help me watch him so I could clean or anything. My husband will watch him for a while but if he’s fussy, he acts like he has no idea what he’s doing.

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yes! I cant wait for this, once I get my breastmilk back stock 1. im getting drunk (😂jk but a beer or two would be nice) 2. im curling my hair and going out to have fun.  the catch right now is, i want to be away and have a break but Im terrified of her not being with me constantly too, My husband watches her while I cook and walk the dogs and maybe run to the store but because shes EBF its like I have a timer ticking down the whole time

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Don’t feel guilty, think about it like you’re giving your husband some time alone with your baby to bond. It’s important especially since he’s out of town a lot. And don’t feel guilty putting him on parent duty when he’s home he has slept infinitely more than you have, he doesn’t need ADDITIONAL rest more than you do. Some days when my husband comes home I banish he and the baby from the bedroom and I just take 30 mins to an hour to just sit by myself and watch netflix or be on my phone guilt free, and it feels amazing.

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Girl im so tired too. I cant deal w anything else.

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Not wrong at all my baby is breast and bottle fed and weve had grandparents and great grandma watch him for a few hours while we do stuff. And he is the father you shouldn't need to ask just say hey babe watch him I gotta do this :)

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Don’t feel guilty. My husband works out of town now and again (like this week) and it gets hard. He was home last week and the baby was having a particularly fussy night. I was in tears but refused to ask for help. He took her, moved her bassinet to the living room, and stayed out there with her so I could get a break. I felt so guilty, but in the morning the first thing he said was he is her parent too and it’s only fair. I will be happy when he’s home again so I can take a real shower instead of a 5 minute rush one.

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Don’t feel guilty! It’s so important for us mamas to take care of ourselves and have time to ourselves sometimes! Atleast once a month I would say! In order to be the best mamas we need to be our best selves which means taking care of ourselves!

Am I wrong to want a break?

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