Adopting a 10yr old?!?!

Question

Ok moms I seriously need y’all help. My husband and I have been TTC our first child together for quite a while now without success. We’ve just been working on us and doing the best we can so we are pretty stable. This little boy from church is being put up into state custody and we got asked to be is guardian so we agreed but I am stressing out! Financially we are ready, we have a decent home, steady marriage and we know children are something we want and we know we want him but it’s scary going from no children to a 10 year old boy who has been through a lot. I need every ounce of advice I can get from parents especially ones who are raising young boys. Please and thank you!

Answer

I think that’s awesome!! & it’s beautiful what you guys are doing. You’ll be fine, it may take some getting used to but as long as he has clothes, food, love & you guys there’s not much more he’ll need!! I wish you guys the best & he’s super lucky to have you guys ❤️

Answer

Just like raising one of your own, there will be a lot of challenges. By 10 they are old enough that their past could have caused damage but definitely still at an age where they are still very resilient when they recieve the right help. The beginning will always be tough. But in the end, he will be your child, blood or not. Once you've taken this child into your home it is likely that your fears will be left behind and replaced with nothing but love.
A 10 year old has a lot to say, how does he feel about all of this?

Answer

Not sure if this is something you’ve considered but I would suggest therapy, maybe one session for himself & then a family session so that you can ensure your all of the same page.
Because he’s been through a lot he might have some baggage that needs unloading. 
This might help you get through the teenage rebellion (if you get one)

Answer

I don't have advice for you other then watch instant family.  My husband and I were just asked to be God parents to a 15 year old who has been through alot.  I can't imagine going from no kids to a teenager. I know it would be the best.  It sounds like he is meant to be with you.  It might be scary but you can do it!

Answer

I have a story. My aunt and uncle adopted a couple of girls. I think they were 10 and 12 at the time. The girls were in foster care at the time after being taken from a bad home. The adoption was good for everyone. They have no regrets.

Answer

That very nice for someone to ask that . It alot of ppl that can't adopted . That really want to. And two kids that been though alot . It alot of hard work. I know some that just did adopted. And she said it really hard . But she would never change it she say they have their up and down .

Adopting a 10yr old?!?!

The Top Baby Tracker App: Embrace New Beginnings with Tender Care

The Top Fertility Tracker App: Your Path to Achieving Pregnancy

The Top Pregnancy App: Nurturing Your Journey to Motherhood

The Top Period Tracker for Empowering Your Menstrual Health Journey