So growing up my mom and I had a bad relationship. She mentally and physically abused me. She smokes put and threatened that if I told we would be ripped apart which gave me fears about cops and issues to this day . She is only in my life when she wants attention but the moment I don't go accordingly to her world. Poof gone .now I moved out when I was 18 and met someone who I developed a mother daughter bond with still years since and she gives me unconditional love even when she has kids of her own. Now the day I found out I was pregnant I told her and my husband and grandparents . But not my bio mom. My struggle is the guilt trip from her and everyone she gets on her side saying how could you not tell your mom ... But here is the thing to me it is another was for my bio mother to try and take control of my life again and making me feel like shit for not telling her and pretty much everything else .. so question is do I tell bio mom? Or wait till she asks....? Please the good bad and ugly I need it all!