I’m so over it!!! Long rant

My boyfriends niña (godmother) continously keeps disrespecting our decisions as parents & me as a person. It may be the hormones, but she is doing it so much to the point where I want her to do nothing with our child.

Anyways, this all started with her wanting to tell his abuela that we were pregnant before we got the chance to. His abuela lives in a different city, and we haven’t gone in a while so we are just waiting till we see her in person. We both don’t think it’s something to tell over the phone.

She repeatedly threatened us saying if we didn’t tell her, she would in the rudest way. This really upset my boyfriend, but he is respectful and didn’t say anything to her. It really bothered me how much he was hurt by her threatening this. He eventually asked me to try to talk to her since me and her were getting along at the time. So, I sent this message.

Mini explanation; we would not be able to tell her till after the baby is born which is something I didn’t want to do, but I can’t travel anymore due to my midwives orders. He actually liked this idea of waiting until he’s born. So thats why at the beginning I said “I may not agree with it...”

After I sent this, she made a group chat with me her & my boyfriend, and stated she wouldn’t say anything, but couldnt prevent her mom from doing anything. (Her mom threatened the same thing) I was just glad she said wouldnt say anything.

Now, she is telling his whole family I “attacked” her with that message, and that I’ve been messaging her rude things since then. My intentions were not to be rude to her in anyway, just very straight forward to the point. I can understand how she took it wrong though, and I apologized in the group chat if she took it wrong & that was not my intention. I have not talked to her since then.

This woman has done so many things wrong to my boyfriend alone, I’m so over him being used. She put him in $400 debt over a year ago & still has not paid the bill, told other family about our miscarriage days after it happened when I wanted no one to know, made him pay for her medical marijuana when he lived with her for months, disrespect my mom and yelled at her because she could not afford to take my boyfriend to go see her (she lives 2 1/2 hours from us and wouldn’t even help with gas money), and so so much more.

At this point I don’t even wanna talk to her. I don’t want her to be apart of our sons life. I blocked her on all social media because she kept sharing rude quotes directed towards me and I just don’t need this negativity right now.

Here are some of the things she messaged my boyfriend. Yes, he defended me more than I show but he said personal things about our situation that I don’t wanna include.

This isn’t even half of everything she said, but all her other messages she would say other things that aren’t my business to share on here.

Am I wrong though to feel this way? Almost everyone that she dragged into this has supported me more than her. I don’t know what to do at this point because I obviously can’t avoid her forever.

If you have read all of this I applaud you honestly. I really needed to rant to other people that wasn’t family.