I met this guy on Tinder about a month and a half ago...unfortunately he lives about 200 miles away.

We’ve talked everyday since meeting on Tinder. He works a 9 - 5 job so he’ll message me every morning about 7ish with a paragraph message saying “good morning, how are you feeling today” including responses to my previous text and text me a couple times before work and every couple hours through out the day. Our text messages are long paragraphs and filled with us both asking questions or having a little joke with each other. He always says when he’s going to sleep and goodnight. He’ll ask to have a phone call with me at least twice a week after work, maybe about 25% it’s me who asks if he wants to.

We met up over the weekend and obviously had a lot of sex...I’m not very good with waiting, I know, I never have been! But that was no problem anyway, we went out for food and drinks afterwards, he paid for majority and I paid for part because I don’t like being that girl that just takes, as he offered to pay for everything. We cuddled all night and morning, he told me stuff about his personal life, like embarrassing things and sad stuff, and asked me about mine. For example, about my mothers death when I was in my teen years (I don’t really like going into it with anyone, especially a guy I’ve only just met), so gave him a brief of it.

The following morning I didn’t wear any make up whatsoever, (even though I have a few adult spots) and he told me I didn’t need it anyway and that I was beautiful (made me cringe a bit but still nice to hear). All day he was the one wanting to hold my hand, put his arms around me and being pretty gentlemen like, even said that he wished I wasn’t going so soon! As soon as I got on the train he text me saying “How’s the train? I’ve had such a nice weekend with you :) thank you so much” and we carried on texting from there as usual.

However although I feel that he’s interested in me and says he can’t wait to see me again (I’m going up to see him in a week), I keep catching him online on instagram when he hasn’t text me back? I know this sounds a bit stalkery but do guys sometimes purposely take a while to reply to your text messages? I know girls do it, because me and my friends do it...I even do it to him (hypocrisy I know). But do I even need to be paranoid? I read that if he really likes you he will immediately reply? It makes me feel a little crazy because I start to wonder if he’s messaging someone else or if he’s just messing with me? It can be quite frustrating but I remind myself that hes his own person and can do whatever he wants, as can I. To be honest I find it quite cute if he’s playing that game, if I know he is, to keep me interested...but what if he’s just stringy me along? This isn’t like a usual guy/girl situation, he does’t call me late at night, I’m probably the one that brings up sex more than he does and he likes that.

I think I just need someone to tell me whether I am just being a bit nuts and I haven’t actually got anything to worry about...do guys that like you play this “long text back but has time to go on instagram” game or do they just not think like we do??

I definitely don’t want to confront about the long texts because sometimes I do it, we’ll probably exchange a minimum of five texts each up to about twenty...he’s at a staff party today and doing the whole online but no text back thing...I feel like I’m just being a bit crazy...I am due on really soon🤦‍♀️

Sorry really long but just trying to show that I don’t think he’s just like a typical guy “player”