I met him at a real lonely time in my life after a huge break up with someone for nine years. He lived six hours away he told me he was married but separated he had been separated for abt two years by then (I don't cross those lines it's against what I believe in to date any kind of married man) but we felt a strong connection and although I don't do long distance relationships and married but separated but we fell in love I didn't think it was happen due to the long distance but it happened.

I don't have kids and he has two, I wld like a normal relationship where there is a possibility of marriage and having kids..idk why but I think I wld like tht and I deserve that..I don't want to feel like I'm hidden due to money and alymony (this shldnt be my problem) but I love this man and I have been so patient I hv given him a year and 7months when I met him I said I wld only give him one year.

He lived alone and He wld drive 6 hours to visit me once a month for a year and stay with me for a week. It was all good until we fell in love.. we wld fight so much because we missed each other and hardly got things done because we cldnt get off the phone because we missed each other so much (sounds cheesy but it's true).

He finally applied for a job in my city and when he didn't get it we just knew we cldnt continue with this long distance relationship. Then I needed surgery and I lost my job at the same time, and everything was falling apart. I don't know how I made it through but I did, on my own, we broke up for three months. He wasn't there for me like he should have it's like he runs when the going gets tough.

Then after so much heartache and arguments he tells me he's moving to my city and got a job transfer, he had a house separately already so he wld stay in his house which is an hour away from his job.

Turns out he never stays in his house he stays in mines, turns out he's still married, turns out he's still not ready for me to meet his kids after a year and 7 months of being together practically living together for 7 months. I have been unemployed for 7 months as well and haven't found a job but he stays with me and complains when he has to chip in and help me. Never has enough money because the wife gets it all, but he's living with me! He goes home once a week at the house he has by me. He's helped me out before but he acts as if it's a chore or a huge favor while he is staying with me and I'm struggling. I know I need to get my life together but when u have a significant other ur supposed to go through things together and I don't feel tht full support! I know what advice I wld give someone going through this but sometimes love makes u see things really different.

He's 16 years older than me and he has already lived his life, marriage, grown kids, good career, big old house tht is a get away for him. And I'm just here asking him when will the divorce happen? When will I meet his kids? When will I stop being hidden?

He's followed me before, goes through my things I mean my personal space is so invaded but his life is top secret. I never thought I wld be taking this type of stuff! I'm not the girl tht ever gets controlled but I feel like it's happening.

What would you guys do in this situation?

I broke it off today but we always break up N make up and the crying and constant fighting is making both of us sick! I love him but this is so toxic for me 😔