My husband’s ex’s baby!? Part 5

UPDATE #46:

Hey everyone! I am so sorry it has taken me so long to update everyone; life has been crazy busy since our last Pretrial conference between Halloween, my oldest son’s birthday, thanksgiving, my birthday, and now Christmas! But anyways, during the last conference we basically just finalized our stances in the case, our witnesses, and any evidence we plan to bring. Luckily our very close family friend and the kids’ uncle (BM’s brother) are going to be our witnesses. I have an entire folder of evidence that BM’s lawyer currently has and is going over which included pictures of the baby with his brothers, my husband, and myself (all together and individual), text between GM and I and BM and I, print outs on studies about the benefits of children being placed together from government and scientific sources, and drawings that my oldest has done of all 5 of us together as a family (my husband and I and the 3 kids, btw he has no idea about the fact that we’re even trying to get his brother with us so this is all his own thoughts). Her lawyer laughed and asked if I had a law degree because of my work and the fact that it was all color coded, organized, and had notes in every margin 😂 Also BM’s DCF worker has kept hinting at the fact that it looks like we have a really good chance at getting the boys all together! ❤️❤️❤️ We’re still trying not to get our hopes up TOO high tho just in case 😕

UPDATE #47:

I am so annoyed! So the plan for Christmas is that we’re doing our Christmas morning here like always then going up to BM’s house at 10 for an hour or so for us all to do presents together (gives the kids a chance to see their brother on Christmas), then we have to go to my parents house, and then my grandparents house. Yesterday we got to have the baby for a few hours (GM originally tried only giving him to us for 3 hours yesterday, which included the 20 drive to her house from ours, and I was like umm no because she’s been trying to make our time shorter and shorter every Saturday) and while she was dropping him off she was like so what are your plans for Christmas so I told her the plan and she simply was like “umm no” and I was like “excuse me?” And she told me that she wouldn’t be going to BM’s at all Christmas Day because it will be too much work for her and I was like “well I have to tote around TWO kids and presents for 3 stops so I think you could make it to one because we physically don’t have time to go to your house too and the plan was for you to be there like everyone originally planned” and she was like “well that’s too bad because I’m not going anywhere so if the boys want to see [baby’s name] you’ll have to bring them to my house.” The boys’ then got upset because they thought they weren’t getting present and couldn’t see their baby brother because they thought they had been bad or did something wrong so I had to cut my conversation with GM to calm them down and explain to them that they did nothing wrong. Once GM left I called BM and she was just as pushed as me. She called her today to ask wth was going on and GM literally told her the same exact thing besides apparently now she IS going there to cook Christmas dinner. So BM called her out on her bullshit too, but she’s still refusing to go there any earlier and refusing to bring the boys’ presents to BM’s house for them to open with everyone else. We’re all livid with her, it’s absolutely asinine that she would do this to them especially on Christmas. 😡🤬😡🤬

UPDATE #48:

Well to start off, Merry Christmas everyone! Secondly, apparently me and BM bitched enough for GM to actually show up! Of course she only stayed for about 30-40 minutes once we got there, but at least the boys were able to see their brother! I’m assuming she thought about it (I know, a miracle) and came to the same conclusion that everyone else did: that if she didn’t at least show up that she’d be screwing herself! But my family and I had an amazing day and I hope you all did too!! ❤️🎄🎅🏻🎁

UPDATE #49:

So we were originally getting the baby on Saturdays from 6am to 6pm, then it went to 10am to 6pm, then it went to noon to 6pm, and now today she just dropped him off (12:45pm) and we get to drop him back off at 5:30pm. So we went from 12 hours to not even 5 full hours. And to make matters even better (super sarcastic) she dropped him off with MC DONALDS for lunch like who the hell gives a 1 year old Mc Donald’s!? And after she put the Mc donalds on the table she turned around and said “Ohyeah and after he eats he’ll need his nap, he didn’t take one yet” and she just said it sooo smug like she knew why it was going to tick me right off 🤬 so he gets to come here for a bit over 4 hours and will spend almost 2 of those hours sleeping????? Whenever we actually get him for more than 4 hours he always eats lunch at 11:30 and then naps at noon so while he’s napping my 2 sons can eat their lunch and they’re not really missing much time with him. But when she said that I just turned around and looked her right in the eye and said “oh, of course he does, great timing huh?!” I am fumingggggg!! 😡🤯😡

UPDATE #50:

Of course, only 5 days until our court date and I come down with the flu 🤒😭 any remedies to fix me up quickly???

UPDATE #51:

Um guys, we’ve run into a problem... I just found out today that I’m 8 weeks pregnant! I am so so so so happy❤️🎉❤️🎉❤️

but we have court in two days, wth are we going to do!?!?!? This could be a wild ride!

And thank you all for your get well wishes and tips for getting better quick!

UPDATE #52:

So we had our trial today!! Everything seemed to go really well. Me, my husband, BM, and our family friend who came with us were all brought to the stand and we all did great I think! It seemed like the baby’s lawyer was on our side, but I can’t be positive. I feel very confident about how today went, but we still won’t find out until February 8th because the judge needs to be able to go over the facts, but it looks like it went really well so I’m really hopefully and will be updating again on the 8th! And just for those who I know will think this is humorous; GM did definitely make herself look like a total jerk! 😂

UPDATE #53:

Soooo now we have to wait a whole week more 😑 waited all day to get am email saying that the judge hasn’t made a decision and that we’ll get the decision on February 15th...

On the other hand I had my first prenatal appointment today! The nurse is estimating I’m 10 weeks today ❤️ it’s still early in my pregnancy so she wasn’t able to find the heartbeat on the handheld Doppler which she said is totally normal. But I do have my first ultrasound on Wednesday to see exactly how far along I am 🤰🏼

UPDATE #54:

They think we lost the baby...💔💔💔 We went in for our first ultrasound yesterday and I thought the ultrasound was terrible because the tech didn’t say anything the whole time besides saying once “here’s your baby”, didn’t play the heart beat for us, and wouldn’t print us copies of the pictures; I was so upset about how everything went that I ended up going home and crying because it made me worry that something was wrong! Then I got a call from my doctor this morning saying I needed to come in for an appointment today to go over the ultrasound and I instantly knew something WAS wrong... she told us the baby is only measuring 7w 4d and they couldn't find the heart beat and I'm supposed to be 11w tomorrow... she gave us the option for a D+C as early as tomorrow or I could have bloodwork done to see if my levels are where they’re supposed to be or not and if they are we can wait a week to get another ultrasound to see if anything changes incase they missed something, but if not then I have to have the D+C if my body doesn’t recognize the failed pregnancy. We opted for the bloodwork and ultrasound. This has been the worst Valentine’s Day ever and is going to be the hardest week of my life. All I’ve done is cry and it hurts so badly... this was supposed to be our rainbow baby 🌈 Our first baby together...I’m absolutely heart broken 💔 please keep us in your prayers as we go through this next week..

UPDATE #55:

So some good news, I get my hcg test back and they’re at 32,000 which is definitely way higher than the 8,000 it was at when I first found out I was pregnant so that gives us some hope which we wait until the next ultrasound next week 🤞🏻❤️ we’re still trying not to get our hopes up tho, just in case, but my husband thinks this will be our miracle baby that will prove everyone wrong ❤️

Also we were once again SUPPOSED to hear back from the judge today about wether we get the baby or not and once AGAIN she pushed the date back by a whole week! So now we have to wait until the 22nd to find out, but at least her secretary did say this she IS writing up the answer we’ve all been waiting for so she has made a decision and BM’s lawyer did say we may even get an answer Monday or any other time between Monday and Friday if she finishes earlier so fingers crossed she’s writing up the answer we’ve all been waiting for! 🤞🏻❤️

UPDATE # 56:

WE DID IT! WE GOT HIM!!! 🎉❤️🎉❤️🎉 we just got the call! We go sign the papers first thing tomorrow morning!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️

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