Warning: HUGE HUGE HUGE rant about just a few of the things I’ve been told by people since I’ve been pregnant. 😀

1. “If you don’t stop eating so much sugar you’re going to give your baby diabetes”

on me having a bowl of ice cream when I hardly eat ANY sugar at all. Also I’ve had a difficult time gaining weight my whole pregnancy. I’ve actually been encouraged to eat more multiple times by my doctor.

2. “You’re planning on breastfeeding? Your boobs are going to be so sore that you won’t be able to. It’s not going to be the way you have it pictured in your head. It’s not as easy as you think it is. I doubt you can.”

Because when someone asked if I was planning to I said I HOPE I can breast feed and I am going to TRY..

3. “You want to try and have her natural? You won’t make it far without an epidural. You’ll be begging for one.”

Okay, I guess everyone’s delivery is the same. Got it.

4. “If you don’t do kegels you’ll NEVER be able to push her out. You’ll end up having a c-section. You need to exercise more.”

I do my kegels every day but even if I didn’t, I’m sure not every woman who has pushed out a baby done her kegels lol.

5. I quit smoking completely over a month ago

but while I was still cutting down and in the process of quitting, one of my favorite pieces of “advice” was being told about how my baby was going to have Down syndrome or deformities and I must not really love her because I didn’t throw away my cigarettes immediately like every other perfect mom. Again, I was already in the process of quitting over time as my doctor suggested. Nicotine withdrawal paired with pregnancy hormones paired with comments about not loving my child. I don’t know if anyone who said these things to me understands how smoking works, but stress makes someone want to smoke more. Be supportive instead of rude to someone who is trying.

6. “Your tits are going to be saggy forever after you have her, especially if you breast feed. Get ready for that, dalton.”

That’s such a nice thing to say to someone.

7. “You have SO long to go. Trust me, you have no idea how much worse everything gets. Just wait, you’ll see”

every single time I try to talk about something new happening to my body, not because of anything being bad but because I’m trying to enjoy this experience. Eleven weeks to go is not a long time, and I don’t know why people act like I haven’t been pregnant because I haven’t been 40 weeks my whole pregnancy. Just because I haven’t pushed my baby out yet doesn’t mean I don’t know what it feels like to be pregnant.

8. “Sleep now because soon you’ll never sleep again!!”

Every single day of my life. Yep, I know that newborns are hard work. Why does everyone have to be a downer about pregnancy? Maybe I want to hear the good things about being a mother instead of how miserable you think I’m going to be every day.

9. “How old are you? You’re too young. Your entire life is going to be hard now.”

Some of the best mothers I’ve met were young. Good thing it’s my life and not yours, right?

10. “Don’t forget to change her diaper”

like .....? Again, I guess because I’m 18 people think I’ve never had any experience with a baby and I must be ignorant because I’m not 50 lol..

11. A MILLION lines about how fat or big I’m getting. These don’t bother me because I love my belly and I love when people notice it!! But I would never say them to someone else who is pregnant. It’s rude.

12. “You don’t have to eat all the time.”

Again, I’ve lost more weight than I’ve gained since I’ve been pregnant, and my doctor told me I need to be eating every four hours AT LEAST. I don’t know why people seem to think every time they see me eat that I’ve had 20 meals that day when I’ve actually had to force myself through three..

13. “A lot of first time pregnancies end in miscarriage. You probably won’t make it far”

a few days after I found out I was pregnant because the person who said this had miscarried her first child.

14. “You won’t have a girl. I wanted one and didn’t get one so you won’t either.”

Followed by a smirk at me as if I was stupid if I thought I was going to have what I wanted. Guess who’s having a girl lol

15. “You need to get on the birth control shot as soon as the baby is born.”

To which I reply, “No, I was on it for years. It messed me up and I’m not doing it again. There are other methods of birth control besides a shot.”

And then they reply “It doesn’t make you sick or moody blah blah blah” pretty much just telling me I’m lying over how it affected my body because it didn’t do that to them.

16. “You don’t get nauseous and sick when you’re hungry”

after I told someone this is why I was rushing to cook. Literally what in the world makes people think I’m wrong about what happens to MY body during pregnancy??

17. I have panic disorder and I didn’t want to drink the glucola drink because I hardly eat sugar and I was scared of freaking out from feeling funny when my sugar spiked. My doctor said we could do another method instead so I decided on pricking my finger a few times a day for a week to record my sugar levels. Since doing that, I’ve been asked about a million times “You couldn’t even do the sugar test? How are you going to have a baby if you can’t even do that?”

The same way you had a baby. The same way others with panic disorder have had babies forever. Maybe with less medication, but the same way.

18. Why are you so sad/grouchy/moody/tired? Why are you crying? Why are you getting so aggravated? Why don’t you just take this “advice” and not, (reasonably), be offended by it? You can’t use pregnancy as an excuse for everything. I didn’t act like that when I was pregnant.”

Because this is MY pregnancy. You are not me. I am not you. We are not the same. I’m not going to raise my kids the exact way you raised yours. I’m not going to do the same exact things you did when you were pregnant. I’m not going to deliver the exact same way that you did. I am NOT you. You can tell someone your stories without pushing what you think is best on them and being overbearing. You can give advice without treating someone like they’re stupid if they choose to do things a different way.

19. “You’re going to get stretch marks. I didn’t think I would and I did. You’ll get them.”

I don’t care if I get stretch marks. They don’t bother me at all. I made this a point to the person who kept telling me this, and they still acted like I was horrified at the thought of having stretch marks. They just kept telling me how bad they’re going to be and how much I’ll hate them even though I constantly told them they don’t bother me lol.. it’s like people want you to be miserable.

AND MY FAVORITE ONE:

20. Your vagina is going to be so messed up and loose after you have the baby. Are you ready for that, Dalton?”

Of course this one was said by a guy since a surprising amount of them apparently don’t understand female anatomy. If you think that’s how it works, you’re ignorant.

I don’t understand people that seem to delight in talking about how dreadful parenting is to a new mom. I also don’t understand why anyone thinks they’re an expert on parenting or that I want their unsolicited “advice.” 90% of the time, the “advice” is rude and not helpful. If my doctor says everything I’m doing while pregnant is fine, then it’s fine. It’s nobody else’s place to say anything. I could not even imagine saying things like this to a pregnant woman. I’m still going to do as I see fit for myself and my baby, regardless of anyone’s opinions, especially if they differ from my doctor’s. I don’t understand why people think when someone becomes pregnant that their life is now a free-for-all for any and all comments about how they live their lives. It’s ridiculous. I feel like people push their entire lives on me because they think the only way to do things is the way they done them.

And I’ve heard that it only gets worse when you actually have the baby. 😀

Then your life becomes how you should parent your child(ren), and even more unsolicited advice about every decision you make as a parent. I take all of this “advice” the best way I can and try to show gratitude even though 90% of it is clearly ill intentioned or comes off that way. I swear I’m just going to start telling people to shut up and mind their business and if they can’t respect me as a person and a parent then I won’t have anything to do with them. I will not tolerate the disrespect anymore.