What to do next?

Just looking for some advice/support please because I really don't know what to do anymore.

My husband and I have been married 6 months but have been together 10+ years.

He can't handle his drink. At all. On the extremely rare occasions he does drink, he usually drinks to excess and then comes home and if we don't have sex then he starts saying nasty things. He was a heavy drinker when we were younger and that was 'normal'. Every morning I would tell him what he said and he would apologise.

That's exactly what happened tonight only, it was different.

So, we had a fight earlier today. Due to go out tonight and see our group of friends, which we were looking forward to. I had my first drink and immediately felt angry so, I decided that it was best for me to stay in tonight as I didn't wanna fight. So, he goes out. Came back at 3am, tried it on. I wasn't interested and that's when he started saying things like "why the fuck are you here?" "this is my bed get out" I wasn't really responding but he then rips the covers away from me and gave me a burn on my hip (which is pretty sore!) so I was like "what the hell are you doing?! Are you just doing this so I'll respond or something? Is that what you're doing for physical contact?!“. Then he snaps. Gets out of bed and starts punching the wall. Like, not once but multiple times. He goes into the living room and has been listening to music since and has now passed out (thank goodness).

He also used to smoke weed like every single day, for the past 6 years. He stopped for 30+days which I was so proud of but, he started it again on Monday of this week, I think it was mainly because he was out drinking with friends the Saturday night and he was hungover and bought some from. A friend. He said he likes it and only stopped to see if he could.

The first 2 weeks of him stopping were horrendous. He was impossible to have a conversation with, so irritable. I genuinely thought we were heading for a divorce/separation. He wanted me to go to my parents. I stuck through it as I said it was just the addiction. He started eating better, getting up earlier, reading more, we exercised etc he was taking care of himself.

I guess I'm just seeking help or someone to advise me on what to do? I genuinely don't know. I haven't known him to be violent towards me but, him punching the wall I read as, him wanting to punch me?! I was genuinely scared of him and hoped he would just leave me alone after that, which he did.

Thanks - hope someone responds 💚

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