Last time we announced after we heard a healthy heartbeat and had all good signs, about 10 weeks - thinking I'd want support if anything happened (which it wouldn't anyway) and being way too excited. Turns out the baby had died the day we heard the heartbeat at about 8 weeks. So while we were announcing I was carrying a dead fetus. And people who were normally supportive and helpful became awful and smothered me.

This baby is due a year and a day from my d&c. We "announced" at 20 weeks to close friends and family, I would have rather not but I'm showing. So now everyone has told everyone and they're all excited and buying things and people at work are gossiping and I have an anterior placenta so at 24w5d I still only feel her a little and I know it's insane but I worry our pride will hurt her somehow. Like if I could keep her secret forever she'd be safe. Anyone see that Darren Aronofsky film "mother"... Thats how I feel... I'm insane.