“How are you feeling?”

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Anyone else so sick of this question? Don’t get me wrong; everyone who asks is caring and well-intentioned. But it’s always, “How are you feeling?” Not a general, “How are you?” I am a person, not only a pregnant lady. Sometimes I wish people would simply ask about my overall well-being, ya know? Am I the only one?

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Yesss. But not only because of that but because they almost expect something to be wrong. I’ve been extremely lucky so far so my answer is pretty good and they always seem slightly offended. Like sorry I’m not hating my life right now?

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I always say “good”. Like I’m not gonna tell you that I’m in so much pain all the time & I want this child out of me & I hate being pregnant lol.

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Right? Like I’m having all my organs squished, my body hurts, and I can’t see my swollen feet anymore; I feel like I’m making a human and it’s my normal. But if you talk about that physical aspect your complaining, yet no one ever talks about overall well being, or even emotional health which is super important at all times and especially pregnancy!

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Then if someone wasn’t asking how you were feeling youd complain that people are so inconsiderate. Can’t ever keep a pregnant woman happy 😂😂😂😂😂😂

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Bahaha hhaha. I just said this and always in my head it’s like do you really wanna know?😂

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"How are you feeling?" can very much also imply overall wellbeing/emotional health. I always give an overall answer and find that most people respond with love, kindness and genuine interest. Don't be so quick to assume what other's intentions are - and give an honest answer if you feel like it needs to be addressed.

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I had a coworker give me a suggestion for when someone asks me that and they obviously are only referring to the pregnancy (which I totally agree, like I am a person too, not just an incubator). She said to answer with “I feel pregnant.” I’ve used it a few times and it seems to work. They stop asking me after that reply.

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Yes!!! And, I’m the kind of person who won’t complain... so I always say I’m great.  When in reality I’m like... I’m 37, giant, have had morning sickness for the entire pregnancy, I’m swollen in places that are extremely uncomfortable, I can’t breathe, have horrible heartburn, and I cannot get comfortable.  I’m getting increasingly nervous as my due date approaches because I’m not ready in her nursery... I have my son’s 5th bday to plan... I’m ready to be off work, but I’ve got 4 more weeks until my leave... not even sure she’s going to stay in that long.  I’m overall overwhelmed... but I just say.... I’m feeling great! Lol. Ugh, at least it felt good to vent that right now:)

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The thing that is getting to me lately is "do you need help" at work, with the simplest tasks. No I do not need help. I will tell you when I want help.
The other thing is yes "how are you feeling?" And then "did you have any morning sickness?" Why no I did not. And they get shocked. It's normal.

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Yes! It honestly infuriates me sometimes. I am a person too! My husband's family always does the pity smile and the "Awe you poor thing, how are you feeling?" I'm feeling like I wanna slap you is how I'm feeling 😒 Yes I am waddling to the bathroom every 10 minutes and my heartburn is making it hard to eat and I'm only comfortable laying down but do not pity smile me! Ugh! Sorry for the rant ahah.

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