I divorced after being together 17yrs. He confessed to an affair over idk how many years, strung me along cruelly. Have now been with a guy with 3 kids (23, 21 & 14) for almost 6 years, I have no children. I always wanted them but am now 42. Anyway just went through Xmas where it was arranged that his ex was coming to breakfast with us & kids at his house. She arrived & i felt she just took over jumped in the kitchen & it was her & him talking & bouncing off each other. I felt no alignment with him. Freaked out got so anxious i just went & hid in the bedroom. She was not meant to stay but did beyond that for the rest of his family coming over for lunch. His mother cant stand her & she was just lingering making everyone feel awkward. But noone would tell her to leave for the kids sake of not creating a drama. But how inappropriate! Am i wrong? Idk how to find a place in this situation. Hes a devoted father & holds his kids as his number ones. We dont live together but im mostly there helping with house cleaning & cooking. Its upsetting he doesnt come to my place to visit me but his reasoning is he needs to be there for his kids. And is always busy tinkering with cars, trucks or machinery. I find myself saying to him “u have no time for us”. Any advice/ thoughts??