Hello everyone,

Firstly happy new year. Secondly sorry for the huge, longwinded post.

We saw a lot of our friends for NYE last night, and one of the people at the party we went to was a “friend” I acquired through my husband. This woman, for no reason at all (trust me I’ve asked politely, and she never has an answer) hates me. Even though she is happily married she treats my husband like her property and seems to see me as an obstacle stopping her seeing him. I’ve never stopped him from doing anything.

Anyway, it came out before our wedding in casual conversation that once we were married we would start trying for a baby (I already have a daughter but she is from a previous relationship and my husband is wonderful with her). Next thing, on the way to my hen do, she is broadcasting to my friends that she is coming off the pill. I only found out afterwards. Then, on our wedding day, she tells our other friends that her and her husband are trying for a baby.

Then last night, within five minute of walking through the door, she broadcast discreetly to me and my husband that she’s pregnant but not to tell anyone because she’s not got a scan until next week. We said congratulations and that we were very happy for them, but after a minute had passed so I wasn’t being rude I went out the room for a minute to compose myself. I could’ve cried. I had a BFN that same morning and had been coping great until then. She then spent the rest of the night socialising and left me and my husband looking after their daughter - I couldn’t get away because my daughter was there too and I didn’t want to leave her alone, so I just got left with both kids. So there I was, sober as a judge, on babysitting duty without even knowing it, feeling heartbroken and angry. She also spent the night talking babies with our heavily pregnant friend and staring daggers at me. I have no idea why because I was so polite with her, she’d never have known how I felt.

I don’t want to sound bitter. I’m not, I’m happy for them, and her husband is a lovely chap and they deserve this. I just can’t help but feel that she’s made all of these events about herself and for some unknown reason has made this baby making malarkey into a competition which she now feels she’s “won” and wants to rub it in my face. It’s worth noting here that my other friend got pregnant last month and I am incredibly happy for her and don’t feel this way at all, so it’s definitely just this woman being downright cruel and not me being bitter. Well done if you’ve read this far. Sorry for such a grumpy post to start 2019 xxxx