My husband thinks my work schedule is unreasonable. I work Monday through Friday. Many days I leave the house before 7am and get home after 6. We live in a metropolitan area and my commute can often be an hour or more each way. I do have some flexibility and come home early a few times a month, and try to work from home 1 day a week, which really helps.

He leaves the house at 6 and is usually home around 4. He complains that because he’s the first to get home he gets stuck with taking care of the dogs and other daily chores, mostly the dishes and sorting the mail. He complains that he’s bored home alone and says he gets too hungry to wait for me to get home to eat together.

I do 95% of the cooking, most of the cleaning, all meal planning and grocery shopping. I also manage the budget and pay the bills.

Don’t get me wrong - he stays busy maintaining our home and cars. He’s very handy and does all of our repairs and updates himself. He cares for the yard and does all the heavy lifting. He does his own laundry, too. He also cares for our dogs most of the time.

I enjoy homemaking and I’m happy to hold up my end of the bargain... but I think he’s unfair with his complaints about my job and how my hours cause him more work.

I’m in a managerial position and while I don’t have to be in the office the traditional 8-5, I do need to be available to staff and often have to attend meetings as necessary. I LOVE my job and the pay is comparable to his income.

He tells me I’m selfish and choosing my career over our marriage. It’s not like we can afford to live on his income alone. That’s not an option.

Thank goodness we don’t have kids yet, because that would just further complicate things!

I don’t think it’s worth quitting my job because I get home at 6pm most days. Isn’t that normal?

He deals with depression and anxiety and I think he’s projecting. What do you think?